Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Images

Hello my sexy readers! How's life for all yall? I hope its amazing for all you guys!

Lets talk about something today. We all know the images we are expected to follow. We all know what we are expected to do, and we try our damn hardest to follow them. But why? Do any of us know exactly why we try to fit these images? Is it because we think we are going to be accepted if we do? Is it because we think we will be popular if we do? What causes us to want to follow these images laid out by other people? Why do we try to limit ourselves to these images? Why do we follow these fads?

None of us really understand why we follow fads, why we try to fit images set by Hollywood and magazine companies, but we do. I do too, we all do. Its just something we do. We are influenced by the media and our peers. I think in a way we are all afraid of individuality. I am not saying I agree with the decisions Miley Cyrus, Lindsey Lohan and Justin Bieber have been making in the past couple of years but it proves my point. They are certainly all demonstrating individuality and we are all criticizing them because they aren't following "social norms". I give people props at school who are not afraid to wear exactly what they want, they aren't following anyone's rules but their own, not many of us can do that.

 We are all uniquely made, we all have our own special traits. We all have our own tastes, we all have our own opinions. We are all different and special in our own way. We are all perfect in our own way. Some of us are tall, some of us are short, some of us are extremely thin while some of us are chunky. We are made that way! There is a reason we are made the way we are! One person is not better than another and we should never try to change who we are. We should not try to fit a certain image laid out by other people because we are all different and we are all unique.

We are afraid of individuality, we are afraid of what other people will think of us if we don't try to fit a certain image. We are afraid of being ridiculed and outcasted because we follow the beat of our own drum, and the reason we are scared is because we outcast the people who do follow the beat of their own drum. Why? because we think they are weird, and we are wrong to think that. We know we are wrong but it stems from being afraid of individuality. It really does.

I think its time to change the perception we have on images, we shouldn't be trying to fit an image, we should be trying to stand out in our own way. We shouldn't cover up our flaws, we should embrace them, because we are all unique and we should embrace our uniqueness. I'm not saying you have to go out without make-up or without doing your hair, but don't cover everything up, let some natural beauty shine. Don't try to fit an image laid out by media, fit your own image, march to the beat of your own drum! Be exactly who you want to be, not what others what you to be!

It doesn't matter if you're short or tall, thin or thick, if you have clear skin or not, if you have freckles, or green eyes, red curly hair, brown straight hair. It doesn't matter, you are uniquely you and you are amazingly beautiful, inside and out. Don't hid behind something, don't conform to an image, just be you, in and out, through and through.

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Negativity

Hey yall! What is shaking today? I'm thinking after I type up a couple post that I am going to have a Harry Potter marathon! YAY! #NERDSTATUSANDLOVINGIT!

One problem I have been having in life is my negativity. I have been negative about basically everything lately, except for today. I did a lot of thinking today and it helped me a lot. You guys won't see this post for another couple of days, so hopefully I'll still be feeling good!

Now I deal with these things I call my 'dark periods', these are time where I fall into a sort of depression. They used to quite frequent but have gotten better as time went on and I began changing the way I think. I have had a couple of these 'dark periods' in the past week because I was under a lot of stress from finals and I have been dealing with a lot of peoples problems on top of my own. Generally I get really negative around these times, but I am also very negative basically all the time. I don't exactly like being negative, I mean yes sometimes you're going to be, but I prefer to be a happy go lucky kind of person.

Being negative really puts a strain on a person, you begin to have a very dark outlook on life. You don't want to go out and do anything, you just want to sit there and make everyone else miserable. That is basically your goal, and being begin to not want to talk to you or be around you because you basically piss them off. But you want people to feel the way you do.

When your negative you are never happy, you get caught up in your thoughts and you bring yourself down, you put a lot of weight on your shoulders and you drag yourself down. Its not until you look at things closely and change the way you are thinking that you begin to feel better. You have to change your own way of thinking. You have to look at a bad situation and think about what you learned from it, you have to brush the bad situation off and say oh well, rather than dwelling on it.

Let me put it this way, the sun is going to shine tomorrow. You may have a terrible day, but there is going to be a tomorrow, the sun is going to rise again and you can try again then. Always take a look on the bright side, you may have to go to a job that you hate, but at least you have a job. You may have to pay an expensive house payment, but that means you have a house. You may have failed a test, but now you know what you need to work on.

There is always a bright side to every situation. Always. It might be hard to see now but never, never dwell on the negative. Never let negativity take over your life. Smile. Be happy. Look at the sun and know its going to shine again. Something good always happens in the end, if something good hasn't happened yet, then it isn't the end.


Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Musings of Aubrey

Hello beautiful people!! I am a person who does a lot of thinking, and that's where most of my problems come from, overthinking, but sometimes the thinking leads to good things, and my overthinking has brought me to a single conclusion. I want to live my life my way. I want to do the things I want to do and I want to be who I want to be. That's it, its my life and I am going to live it my way. If I want to cut all my hair off I am going to do it, if I want to dye my hair, its going to be dyed. If I want to wear leather pants and a t-shirt, its happening.

Life is way to short to worry about what other people think of you, live your life the way you want to live it. It is your life, go out and live it! I'm not saying use this as an excuse to go out and drink and do drugs and all that. I mean I guess I kind of am. Basically what I am saying is don't be stupid about it. Wait, what was the point of this, I was going somewhere with this, hang on like two seconds.........

Oh yes! I got it! LIVE YOUR LIFE! IT IS YOUR LIFE, DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK! Go out in public and act like a freak! Laugh until you fall over, act as weird as you possibly can! HAVE FUN! Don't worry about what people think of you! That is their opinion, and it doesn't matter! There are plenty of people who love you exactly the way you are! DO NOT CHANGE for someone, if they want to be friends with you or in a relationship with you they will LOVE you exactly the way you are. BE EXACTLY WHO YOU ARE. You are the only person who is stuck with you. Everyone else has the choice to be apart of your life if they want to be, do not change! Not everyone is going to like you, its a fact of life, but they don't matter because for every person who doesn't like you there are 3 other people who LOVE you!

What I am saying here is don't worry about other peoples opinions of you. That is their problem if they don't like you, not yours. Be yourself all of the time, don't hide behind a person you made up because you think people will like you more. There is nothing I regret more than not acting like myself.

I want you to do something with me. I want you to be straight up honest with me, yourself and the people around you. Don't hid behind a front. Ill start here with you guys.

 Hi, my names Aubrey and I am nerd. I like Harry Potter and Hunger Games. I like reading and I LOVE being in band. I play in the pit orchestra and I am excited about that.  I play soccer and I really dislike running. I dislike my body and certain aspects about myself, but I am learning to love myself. I finally had my first kiss at the age of 16, but still haven't had my first boyfriend. I don't have a car and work at a retail store. I am a freak and so are all my friends, and I love them for it. I am moody and a very emotional person. I care way to much about people, especially people close to me. I am Aubrey and I am no where near perfect, but I am me, and that's all I ever want to be.

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

I'm Back!

Boo! Hey my wonderful readers! I has been a while! I hope you all had a wonderful New Year! I did nothing for New Years and went to bed at 11:00 but it was still good!! So hopefully you guys had a more exciting New Years!
 I haven't posted since November! That's a long time ago!! I have been SUPER busy but I wanted to come back, I've been doing a lot of thinking and want to share my thoughts with you! I hope you're ready for it!!
That's all for this post, I just wanted to give you some warning!! Hopefully I can do a better job at blogging from now on!!
Love you all and thanks for reading!!

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Happy Belated Thanksgiving!!!

Happy belated Thanksgiving! I had been meaning to post but I've been busy lately. I worked on Thanksgiving Morning, on Black Friday and earlier today, all around 8 hr shifts, you can say I am a little tired. But anyway I hope everyone had a fun and safe Thanksgiving!! I hope everyone stuffed their faces with the amazing food they had and I hope everyone just had a good Thanksgiving and spent it with the people who matter to you. I think for the rest of this post I am just going to post a few things I am thankful for. If you want leave what you are thankful for in the comments!!

I am thankful for:
My wonderful family
My amazing friends
My co-workers
My teachers
My music
Chocolate
Starbucks
The little bananas in Runts
YouTube
My Blog and my readers
But overall my life.

Have a nice night and let my know what you are all thankful for!!!!

Monday, November 18, 2013

Music Monday #5

D'ello! What is crackalacin my friends?? Its time for another music Monday! I was not really sure what to do for today because the only songs I have actually been listening to are French songs and Rap God by Eminem. But I have finally decided on one....drum roll please!!........

Should of Just Gone to Bed by the Plain White T's. This song has really good instrumentals. You know how some music is just computer laid beats? Well this one actually has music behind it, played by an ACTUAL band! Almost unheard of huh? haha. But overall this song is good and it just sounds really good. The lyrics are relatable to many people so overall it just makes a good song. I suggest you check it out. I am going to put the video in underneath:)



 
 

*I will be posting a few other posts this week so be sure to check them out! Also don't be afraid to talk with me, there is a communication box to your right as you read this and you can leave comments, tell me what you think! Good or bad!! I just wanna talk with you guys. Love ya lots!!*

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Do Whats Good for You

Lately I have been having some issues with a few of my "friends". They don't know how I feel because if I try to talk to them about it they refuse to listen. Basically the big thing is they will ignore my unless they need something from me. One piece of advice I can give you right now is be nice to people but don't be too nice, because people will use you, trust me, I know. I am tired of being the person that is expendable, I'll be there when you need me but other than that I don't matter. Its been causing me a lot of problems lately. Its been causing me to feel as if I have to act out to get attention from them. I haven't acted out yet but its crossed my mind. My self-esteem has been dropping because of it, and its already not doing so well because of swimming in gym.

I want to use my experience to help other people. If you ever feel this way, or have, listen closely. They don't mean anything, friends will come and friends will go, its not worth it for you to feel worthless. You are more then someone to be used, you are a person. You are a person with talent and worth. You are a person who should never feel used and worthless. You look those people in the eye and say to them "Screw you!" Its going to be hard, its been hard for me to do, but your going to gain and loose friends and friends that only use you are NOT worth it. In all honesty they are not your friends.

I am going to wish all of you good luck if you are going through what I am right now. Its hard but I want you to do what's good for you. In return I ask you with me good luck with what I have to do as well. I don't want to loose these friends but the only way for me to feel good again is to loose these friends that are bringing me down. They won't understand but that doesn't matter, its time for me to put myself first. Sometimes you just need to put yourself first, and now is that time. Good luck to all going through what I am.

Monday, November 11, 2013

Happy Veterans Day

I just wanted to pop on and say a big thank you to all of the Veterans. Thank you for all of your sacrifices, thank you for doing what you do and have done for our country. Without you, and your sacrifices, we would no be where we are today. Thank you for serving our country. A lot of people in my family have served. It is a great honor to know people who have served and I know it is a great honor for them to have served. Thank you to everyone who had served and are currently serving.

The other day my school held a Veterans Day assembly and we invited Veterans for it and I couldn't help but cry. Seeing the pride on their face, and their emotions was so....amazing. Watching their faces as we gave them a standing ovations just made me break down, is was so heart warming. Playing in the orchestra for them was such an honor.

Thank you Veterans and Soldiers currently serving. In all branches of the Military. Thank you. We are the Land of the free because of the brave.

Music Monday #4

Guys I am sooo sorry I missed last week. I completely forgot! I told you guys this would happen!! But I got a treat for you this week!! Well I love the song a bunch but that's because I am a HUGE fan of this group. Ready??? Drum Roll please............Ones Directions new song Story of My Life. Guys I love One Direction so much. So I think this song is amazing. Story of My Life is kind of a new sound for them but its also their old song. Its honestly soooo good!! I can't even handle it. I can't wait for their album to come out!! I am also going to link a "review" for this song. Its by Shane Dawson, one of my favorite YouTubers. I love One Direction with all of my heart but its pretty funny. So please check both out!!

Story of My Life:
 
 
 
 
 
Shane Dawson's Review:
 
 


 
 
 
 
 
 
Each work belongs to the respected parties. I take no credit for any of the work shown on my blog.

Monday, October 28, 2013

Music Mondays #3



Today I want to make my post about more than just a song, but a group. Pentatonix. They are an a Capella group how sings popular songs. If you don't know what a Capella is, it is where you make music, entirely without instruments. Its all done mostly by singing and beat boxing. Pentatonix is very very good and my favorite cover of theirs is Can't Hold Us, originally by Macklmore. I am going to include the link to their YouTube channel and I really suggest you check them out!! Pentatonix


Monday, October 21, 2013

Music Monday #2

Hey its MUSIC MONDAY!! This song is again one that I did not like when I heard it originally but it grew on my like Royals did. I would like to present Summertime Sadness by Lana Del Rey. I am listening to it now. There are two versions of Summertime Sadness, the remix, which is more upbeat and fast, then there is the original version of Summertime Sadness which is slower but just as good. The original version has more of an emotion sound to it. But the song either way is very good and very good to listen too. I know it may be "mainstream" to like this song, same with Royals, but I like it and I want to share it with you guys. I am putting both versions below so.....check it out!


Thursday, October 17, 2013

I Heard It First

There are many things that people say that really irritate me. One happens to be when a song comes on that you, and a lot of other people, enjoy and they say "I heard this song first! I hate that everyone likes it now when I heard it first". First off people, that song was not made for just you to like. That song was made by an artist for a lot of people to listen to and enjoy. Second, you should be happy for this artist because they just became popular and are successful from this song. That is what artists are looking for, to share their music with a large audience of people and have them like it. They don't make a song just for one person to listen to and like. They made it for EVERYONE. I don't care if you discovered a song or artist first, before they became popular, good for you! I am allowed to enjoy them (artist or song) just as you are. But here is a cookie for you, congrats that you discovered them first.

There rant over:)

Monday, October 14, 2013

Music Monday #1!


There is a song I am currently in LOVE with. Royals by Lorde. It is such a fun, catchy song. I don't even know how to describe it. I used to HATE this song but it slowly grew on me. I now love it and constantly have it on replay! Here is the song!! Hope you enjoy as much as I do!




Sunday, October 13, 2013

New Idea!

I have decided that I want to make a weekly post for you and I shall call it.....Music Mondays!! So original isn't it? I want to become more relatable to you, my readers and I want to share with you some of my favorite things! YAY! Now I am going to try to do this.... I am going to try very hard to keep this a weekly thing, but if I do fail  I would like to apologize in advanced!! I am very excited to start this and I hope you guys enjoy it too!

Saturday, October 12, 2013

The Life of School

School is only an month in and so much has happened all ready. I will start off with my homecoming.

Our homecoming theme was into the future, it was a cool theme, it was fun to decorate and it looked awesome! This year the DJ was, in my opinion, awesome! We won our homecoming game (we are undefeated, more on that later), our homecoming performance for band went really well, I liked it. Did we mess up a bit when making the Enterprise, sure, but that was okay. For half time we played music from Star Wars and Star Trek, we also played Crazy Train and we played our school song. It was cool. I loved my dress this year, it was very pretty! I had an amazing time for pictures, it was a TON of fun! The only down side to homecoming was.....I left about and hour and a half into the dance because I felt HORRIBLE. I was very upset I was leaving, I wanted to stay and have a buttload of fun. I even missed the live performance that a local band from our school that was playing.

Moving on I have to give props to our football team, we have not lost a game this year yet! *knock on wood* Playoff bound baby!!! This year the team is doing amazing and I don't think I have ever seen them play this good. We played our town rival, West, tonight, or rather last night. We CRUSHED them! 28-0! It was one of the BEST games I have ever seen, I had a ton of fun cheering for our boys!

I have been busy busy busy this year. I am PR for French club, I have chaired an event for Student Council, I am currently chairing for Spooktacular, a trick or treating event my school puts on for younger children in my city, for Polaris Honors Society. I am also playing my flute in the Orchestra for an upcoming concert. I also take an online class along with my full schedule and I have gotten a job! I am finally making bank! haha just kidding, I get paid just over minimum wage, but that is okay with me, its money after all.

SOO  much going on. I feel so grown up and so young at the same time. I don't feel that I should be as old as I am! Its so crazy! I have been looking into some colleges already. How am I old enough to be looking into colleges?? OHMYGOSH!

Sorry for not posting in FOREVER! I am working on posting more! I promise! Its just been sooo busy! I promise to post again soon!! Love ya lots my beauties:)

Monday, September 16, 2013

Busy Busy Busy

Well hey there. Its been a while haha. I have been busy with school and everything. School has been an adventure already. So much going on, to many things I already don't understand, I had to give up on Physics homework tonight and am going in for help tomorrow morning. I didn't even get through one problem, go me! I also forgot to do some French homework over the weekend, luckily my teacher is super nice!

I have been super stressed out and its only the third week of school! I want it over already. This year has been really hard for me to get back into the swing of school. I don't know why the transition is so hard this year but its making me stressed. I think part of it is I am not ready to be this old yet, I'm not ready for my future.

My first day of school sucked, I hated it. I went home and cried. It was just rough, I don't have many friends in my classes and I had a buttload of stuff thrown at me. Plus I am taking an online class on top of a full schedule. Its been crazy but I am slowly figuring it all out.

I got my license!! I am sooo happy!! I had my road test on the 11th and I passed. I was so thankful. Of course September is a somber day for us there in the U.S.

I wish I had a car but I have to buy my own...sigh.... but on the bright side I also got a job!! I start my orientation on Friday! Excitement!!

There is so much I want to put in this blog post but I have to sort through my feelings. You might not know it but this blog is how I get my feelings out, and you don't know half of my feelings. I wish I knew if I had an audience but I don't know if I have an active audience.... It would make my blogging easier, that way I could do what I wanted with this blog but that's okay, I enjoy typing to myself.

I will be posting a fun blog soon I think, I just need to think of a fun one!! I will also be posting more I think, its just been stressful and I haven't found a time to really sit behind the computer and type.

Catch ya'll on the flip side LATER:)

P.S. peeps, talk to me! If you're reading, let me know, I want to meet you! I really do! I have a contact box to the right if you wanna just talk to me personally or you can comment! But seriously don't be shy! I don't bite!! I'm weird, but my friends like me! I'm not super weird, just funny weird! Talk to me peeeeeepssss. Like chicks, PEEEEEPs:)

Monday, August 19, 2013

You Wanna Hug Me? What Rhymes With Hug Me?

If you don't understand the title of this post 1: you have a pure mind, which trust me, is a good thing. 2: You haven't heard Blurred Lines by Robin Thick. I am not going to explain that line from the song, if you don't get it, Google it. Seriously. I have enough people telling me my mind is always in the wrong place, but you know if it wasn't in the gutter half the time and I wasn't good at thinking on my feet, my friends would not have half the entertainment that they do. Sometimes I'm a fricken comedienne. Anyway that is completely off topic. The point of this post is music. Music is a big part of teens everyday life, weither they listen to Hip Hop, Pop, Rap, Country, Christian, what ever genre you listen to, its a big part of your life.

We hear music all of the time, its a daily occurrence. For me I often use music as a way to calm down after a stressful day, or when I'm upset for whatever reason, music has been there for me when people haven't. But I also listen to music to just pass time, or dance around my house and act like a freak, when I want to fill awkward silences when I'm with my friends, when I want to ignore people. Music is big in my life, I listen to all types of music. If you went and looked through my iPod, I think you would be soooo confused by the amount of different genres I have! But I love each and every song on there in a different way.

Not only do I listen to music, I also play music. If it hasn't come up I play the flute at school for band. I've been playing since the talent show in 5th grade. I love playing music, especially pep band! That's when I love music, when I can feel the music. Sometimes in class you will find me swaying to the music we are playing because I am just that into it.

Music is such an important part of our lives, especially our teenage years. Sometimes I wish artists would use music to convey more positive messages instead of the ones they do, but really who really listens that hard to the lyrics.

I don't understand how I can remember soooo many song lyrics but nothing that I learn in school. I might have to pull a Hannah Montana and turn the stuff I learn in school into a song:) haha maybe not, I have no talent in signing, or making songs, I've tried writing a couple songs, my friends made fun of me :)

I have found more and more music parody's on YouTube, all of which are fricken HILARIOUS! Just to let you guys know:)

Right now my favorite music is mostly county but I also LOVE Little Mix, One Direction, Imagine Dragons, and more country. If you want to check out a cool song listen to Popular Song by Mika and Ariana Grande. Its good:) I think the general message is you are popular as long as you are being you. I might be super wrong though. Oh and Made in the USA by Demi Lovato is good!

What are your guy's favorite tunes right now? What genres do you listen to? Let me know in the comments!!

'Yeahhh, I like a little Captain in my coke. You know I like a little good time in my smoke, With a pair of tan legs hangin' off the tailgate, Underneath the bridge down Harrison Road, I like fried chicken right off the bone, I like my peaches home grown. Pickin' on a six string, listenin' to the choir sing, With a little Garth on the radio. A little bit of Florida, A little bit of Georgia, And a whole lot of country in my soul.'

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

The Fault in Our Stars

If you have read The Fault in Our Stars, you can skip the explanation of the plot, otherwise enjoy!!

                                                                                                      
For my birthday (the first) I received the book The Fault in Our Stars by John Green. Now I had heard a lot of good things about this book and recently have become a fan of John Greens work. I must say if you haven't read this book, I suggest you get your butt to your nearest book store or library and pick it up. This book is one of the greatest and saddest books I have read in a while. I mean I fall in love with a lot of books but I literally read this book in like two days, I was hooked, and I haven't been hooked on a book in a while. This book literally made me cry. At the end I just sat there weeping. I do have a bone to pick with Mr.Green. WHY is all I ask WHY!! I was expecting a happy ending, not one that made me cry!! I am not going to tell you guys what made me cry in case you have not read The Fault In Our Stars, because it is a plot twist and if I told you then it just ruin the whole experience of reading the book.

I would honestly give this book a 10 out of 10 rating. It was such a wonderful book. It had a great mix of drama, happiness, sadness and ughh it was just a wonderful book!!

The basic plot line of the book is there is this girl, Hazel, who was diagnosed with terminal cancer of the lungs at age 13 and is on a drug that had basically kept her alive. Hazel doesn't really leave the house, she was pulled out of school, although she takes college classes over at her local community college. Her mom is quite overbearing, always close, always there. So Hazel becomes sort of depressed, she doesn't really leave the house, she doesn't have a lot of friends, nor does she hang out with of her friends a lot. Her mom signs her up for a cancer support group. She goes to this weekly. She had kind of became friends with this one boy Issac, who one week brought his friend, Augustus. Augustus stared at Hazel the entire time at support group. Augustus is an amputee from osteosarcoma, which he had and is now in remission. After support group he pulls Hazel aside and they being talking. She goes over to his house and that's where their friendship starts. They bond over Hazels favorite book 'An Imperial Affliction'. They begin to spend more time together and Gus loves An Imperial Affliction. Hazel really wanted to meet the author of her favorite book after an email exchange with the author that Gus had and so did Hazel. The author, through his personal assistant agreed that if she came to Amsterdam, where he lived, he would tell her what happens after the book had finished, as she was always obsessed with what happens after the book ends, but the author never wrote a second book. Gus, using his 'wish' from the 'genies' (like Make A Wish) to fly him and Hazel over to talk to the author. The author was not what either of them expected. He was a drunk. Although upset they still had a great time in Amsterdam. The authors assistant takes them around to different places in Amsterdam as she had set up the meeting without the authors knowledge and she felt terrible about the way he reacted. This is where Hazel learns something terrible. 

This is where I stop because you need to read the novel yourself because if I tell you then it just doesn't give you the same affect when you read it. If you really want to know, Google it.  

Thank you John Green for writing such a great book and many other books, such as Looking for Alaska, which I am also not to happy with the ending of that book either, but that's for a later date:) 

Honestly this is one of the best books I've read in a while and I really suggest you read it too!! If you have read it, let me know your thoughts in the comments down below!!

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Blog Name - Self Esteem and Body Image

Disclaimer: I am not looking for attention, I just want to share with you the idea behind the name of my blog.
This post is long and I don't blame you if you don't make it all the way through. Sorry if there are grammatical errors.
                                                                                                       
I've been having a hard time decided if I wanted to make this post yet, its something I'v
e wanted to post but I've been putting it off, which is why I haven't posted in quite a while. For some reason I have a hard time finding the words I want to say to explain it and for some reason it makes me nervous. I have no idea why it does.

Being Me, Loving Me....Well Kinda was the name I thought of for my blog because I thought it fit perfectly for how I feel. As many females do I have very low self esteem and a very poor body image. Meaning I do not in fact love myself, nor do I feel being me is good enough. These words are things I strive for, I want to be me and I want to love myself but until I can feel good enough that is not going to happen. Many woman
feel the exact same way, and some are lucky enough to never have encountered this.

Some do extreme things to themselves, some can handle it pretty easy and some of us, we hide it until it all comes out. Some of the most confidential people you meet can actually people who hurt the most, they are just good at hiding. Personally I try to compress my feelings until I am alone, I don't let people know, and that is hard to do. I have never starved myself or done any kind of self harm, not that it didn't ever cross my mind. But every time it did cross my mind I shot it down, mostly out of fear but also I remembered that I wouldn't only be hurting myself but the people are me, especially my little brother who would not have understood. If you are a person that does these kind of things I pass no judgement upon you, you deal with things differently and I completely understand your logic, but please don't. Many people are willing to help you, they are all around, if someone doesn't make you feel better or listen, someone else will, even I will. I have no problem listening to people and helping people with their problems. My friends always come to me when they need someone to talk to, please done hesitate to contact me, male or female.

I guess I've always felt this way, as a younger child I was chunky, I'd even go as far to say I was fat. When I was  younger it didn't bother me, I was the way I was and back then it didn't matter. It started in middle school, that's the time when things start to change but it still wasn't bad, right around that time was when I hit my major times growth, and I began to thin out, now at 5' 11" I am tall and everyone tells me I'm skinny but I don't really believe them because of the low body image. I think I am quite big to tell you the truth but. It all really hit me once I got to my freshman year, I knew it was going to be a big change going into high school and it certainly was. My freshman year was a hard one, once or twice a month I would have what I called 'melt downs' these were the times when I would just cry because I would hate the way I looked and hate that I didn't feel good enough and all my emotions just came to surface, like I said I compress my emotions. I would always compare myself to everyone else and I didn't think I stood a chance against them. I also didn't feel I could go to my friends, at all, it just wasn't the way I was, I try to deal with everything myself so I can help myself.

One day in English class we had to write a persuasive paper and our teacher showed us her paper she wrote in college and it was on the topic of women and body image, and how the media played a part in women having a low body image. Already talking about it made me kind of upset, but I was fine because it showed me that I wasn't alone. I was fine all up until my teacher was talking about how Marilyn Monroe would have been around a size 12. I personally wear anywhere between 13 and 15. A girl in my class, whom I've known for quite a while goes "12! That's HUGE! I wear a size 1!" and that's when I lost it. I turned to my friend and started crying. She hugged me and slowly people began to see that I was crying, luckily the people sitting around my were all my friends and I soon had a group of people huddled around me and they were trying to comfort me. My teacher came over and talked to me as well then this one girl that I had not said two words to the whole year came over to me and asked me what was wrong. She was a 'popular' girl and she is absolutely beautiful, inside and out. She had already kind of knew what was wrong and she says to me 'not to be weird but can I hug you' she gave me a hug and was there to listen to me. She was there for me more then some of my friends and she was going through a very tough time, even now she is. She later messaged me on Facebook seeing how I was doing and gave me her number and we talked. I wish I was closer to her now but we haven't talked in a while.

This past year has been much better for me but it is still hard. I go through these times that I call my 'dark times' I have never been diagnosed with depression, but that is basically what these times are. Times where I hate myself and where I can't shake this feeling of being deeply upset, these often happen when bad things in life happen and all my feelings come to surface or when I begin thinking a lot, and a lot of other times. I'm not really sure when it happens but it happens about once a month or every couple months. Its all getting better, but it still happens.

Sometimes I hate looking at the mirror, I hate what I see half the time, I hate feeling the fat on my legs I have over my muscle, I hate seeing the fat on my stomach. But slowly I am beginning to like myself, and soon I hope to be able to love myself, and feel okay being myself. There is more I want to write but this post is long and I don't have the words anymore. I don't know how to describe it anymore. Basically  now I just fall into a depression and luckily after a couple of days I can pull myself out of it. Sometimes it takes a lot but its getting better. I compare myself to other still a lot and that doesn't help at all. I still don't feel good about myself, but its a work in progress and I think and hope one day I can be at peace with myself.

The words have run out, I don't know what else to say. But I feel like I am getting my self esteem up and my body image up and that slowly I am gaining confidence in myself. And that's what counts. So for now I'm Being me and loving me....well kinda:)

If you stuck with my this far in this post thank you. I know its long but I wanted to get it out. Thank you for listening and if you feel this way and want help feel free to reach out to me. Thank you again. Have a great day.

-Aubrey






Monday, July 15, 2013

A Couple of Things

HEYYYYY!! So I just wanted to give a general explanation of a couple of things, and a bit of an update on life.

First of all I know this blog really had no direction and I am pretty sure I have very few active readers and its mostly people who just stumble here and that's okay with me. But I do want to have a direction for this blog and I know exactly what I want to do, I just don't feel ready to have a direction. One post that I want to have is an explanation of the name of this blog (Being Me, Loving Me...Well Kinda) There is an actual meaning behind it, and it wasn't just a random name I can up with. Another post I want to do is a post about Autism. Autism directly effects me and my family and I want to have a couple of post about Autism in general and a couple post in my opinion of Autism. Tagging along with the post about the title of this blog I would like to do some posts about body image, and after I explain the name of my blog I think this will make perfect sense. Some other posts I want to make are my general thoughts on things, wither it be about my life or things in society, or just general rants. I also want to make posts about things I like to do, some book reviews, recipes, crochet patterns, soccer. And of course the general posts about high school. I do have an idea of a direction I want to go with this blog, I'm just not ready to start on the direction yet.

Second of all if you do read this blog and like it, let me know!! I have absolutely no idea what my audience is like except for a couple of small facts that Blogger gives me, soo if you read let me know!! I know of exactly one person who actively reads my blog, and a big shout out to her for reading it!! Thanks Sarah! If anyone else is reading well let me know and I will give you a shoutout as well!! Also if you are reading this post and have read others and like what you read, don't be afraid to tell your friends!! I would love more readers and be able to communicate with others!! But please, if you are pedophile, leave me alone:) haha yea I have a bad sense of humor, but my friends think I'm funny:)

And that brings us to the end of this post, I have been doing absolutely nothing with my life lately, other then watching some youtubers, my current favorite is Shane Dawson, I've linked it to is main Youtube channel if you wanna check him out. **Note he has a specific sense of humor and some may find it offensive, or otherwise inappropriate** Any ways that's kinda everything I wanted to tell all you wonderful people out there in Blogger Land. SOOOOO have a beautiful day, or night, or evening, or...you know what just have a beautiful life!! :D